Have you ever given a gift to someone? Of course you have! All of us have given a gift to someone at some point or another in our lives. Maybe it was an extravagant gift like a diamond necklace…or maybe it was a used t-shirt we no longer needed or wore…maybe it was rocks from your garden that your bestfriend really liked and wanted….maybe it was lunch for a friend….maybe it was a cash tip for a job well done! Yes, we have all done this, right?
When you gave this gift…did you do it because you wanted to? Because you felt good doing something nice for someone? Because you are just a kind and giving person? Because you wanted to show the other person some type of appreciation? Because you liked or loved the recipient of the gift? Probably so.
After giving said gift, did you then harbor in the back of your mind that this person somehow was now indebted to you or owed you in some capacity? That you now have done something nice for them and they now owe you the same in return? I would think not, because the whole idea of giving a gift is to do it out of kindness…not out of some twisted sense of “HA! Now you must turn and do something nice for me!” lol…no, I think we all give gifts because we are nice and it makes US feel good to do good for others. At least I hope so.
I have heard stories of people who do nice things for others, then throw it in their face when things don’t go their way for some reason. I’ve never been sure what to make of people who do things like that. People who say things like “Well I was nice to you! How can you disagree with my opinion?” Like being nice was payment on some future debt owed. “I was nice to you in 1987, so I need you to wash my car now!” Or they blow what they have given you so far out of proportion…like that old mirror that had been in their attic unused or unseen for years was some brand new grand piano? I dunno. I have just heard of these type of occurrances, and it bothers me. When I give someone something, I gave it. It’s gone. It made me feel good and it made them feel good. Once you bring it up or make it ugly….it makes no one feel good.
Just watched a movie this week where this man was a micro-manager. OF EVERYTHING! He was the supervisor at a big department store. He was one of those bossy bosses…lol. You know the type. They know it all. They have done it all. They know the best way of doing it all. On the surface he seemed like a nice guy…in fact, he would be the first to tell you what a nice guy he was! 😉 Once they really got to know him however…or worked under him for any length of time…they saw the truth. He would tell the guys stories about his life..or problems he is having with other employees or other people in general…and of course they agree with everything he says…he’s the boss or your friend or your brother in law! What else are ya gonna do? Anyway, on the show he was such a “manager” of everything, at home…he ran the show…he told his wife how to do everything, where to put things, how to put them there, when to put them there. He wasn’t abusive or anything, it was a comedy…lol, he was just so arrogant! He didn’t even seem to realize just how annoying he was, or how everyone really found him to be a total bafoon! His poor wife, she followed his every rule and command like a whipped puppy dog. She’d say “Oh yes, Honey! I’ll do that!” To his every command. “If she only knew how he talked about her behind her back!”…the friends would say. He had two grown sons who wouldn’t even talk to him…they would talk to the mom, and stop over only when the dad wasn’t around, at first…before you found out how the dad was, you thought these two sons were real brats for being so mean to their father…then as the story unfolded, you understood! The employees did as they were told and pretended to be interested in his boring and sometimes ridiculous stories, they would put in the correct compliments where indicated. But outside of work, they all made fun of him. Of how he really thought he was “cool” or “goodlooking” or “smart”, or “talented” he really thought he was a great singer, when in fact it sounded like fingernails on the chalkboard! Didn’t stop him from singing all the time though! In the shower, in the bathroom stalls, in the halls, everywhere! lol… This guy would find one employee and take him under his wing…he was so desperate for a friend at the beginning of the movie, the new employee would go along with his boss…at times feeling pity for the guy. Eventually this “boss’s pet” would figure out that the dude was completely nutzo! He soon learned why all the other employee’s talked badly about this guy and why some had previously quit. His demands were at times just plain moronic, and he always thought someone was trying to rip him off…whether at work or at home…it was hilarious..at one point he had three different plumbers coming to his house for estimates on just changing the ballcock in the toilet tank! Trying to save $5.oo! lol….but you would’ve had to watch the movie and I can’t remember the name of it right now. Eventually the guy lost his job…and was left as he started…friendless and looking for work….but no worries, his hapless wife was still by his side, but there was the indication that she would soon be sick of his insanity. It ended with him sending back the car he had just had specially outfitted with outrageous interior because he now thought it was vulgar…the guys at the auto detailers, put a dead fish in his car heater vents! It was great!!! Even though it was funny, it did have a moral…that even if you’re delusional thinking you are greater than you really are, in the end…it’s others opinion of you that tells the world what kind of person you are. Anyway…I guess the show got me thinkin about all the micro-managers of the world….I bet they give themselves migraines!
I’m feeling pretty good tonight. For a change. Think I’m getting my UTI under control. It’s one of those days where I am feeling thankful for alot of things instead of down. I am thankful that I have two great children who love me and spend alot of time with me…willingly! I am grateful that I have such a great relationship with my kids and my family! I am grateful that I have so many kind and loving and true friends…some in person and some online! I am grateful that I have a strong and supportive family…even through tough times. I am just grateful for alot tonight! And guess what peeps? SPRING has sprung! Woo Hoo! What’s not to love about that?! Sunshine! That always makes me feel better. And Easter is Sunday, and spring break….I sure hope the weather stays nice for everyone!
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We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. ~Seneca